Sunday, April 13, 2008
Common problems with in MIL (mum in law) (1)
I recently read a friend's blog that she has MIL issues. Well, which married couple with children does not have? Its either conflicts because of DIL and MIL because of son or grandchildren or housework what else?

Honestly I am still single and now staying on my own. So how can I comment right? But again I have 2 older sisters and 2 older brothers they were all married and have own children. My family is quite big concerning besides having 5 of us siblings and parents, I have 2 nieces and 6 nephews, 3 brother in laws(eldest sis divorce and remarried) and 2 sister in laws. I have seen alot of in law issues in my family. Mainly between my mother and my other 2 sister-in-laws and my mother with my 2 brother-in-laws and my sister with her dad-in-law.

I will start sharing some of what my mum complains unhappy with my SILs, and my sister's in laws unhappy with their MIL :

Common onflicts between DIL and MIL

(1)Housekeeping:
MIL: I like house to be tidy want DIL to do cleaning at least once a week and maintaineverything nice and neat.
DIL: We working adults do not have time for this, rather we will hire part time maids or husband will help share the housekeeping. We share financial of course housekeeping cannot be done by wife alone.

2)Take care of husband well:
MIL: Make sure once a while cook for hubby or take good care of his meals. Make sure he has nice and tidy clothes to wear. MIL do not want to see son wearing unironed shirt, go out empty stomach or see son cook for wife.
DIL: We are working, we expect husband to be considerate to do own cleaning and iron own clothes. Once a while to help pack breakfast for us rather than we serving our husbands.

3)Sleep (not more than 8 hours)
MIL: How come DIL sleep till after 12 noon on weekends esp sunday. DIL should sleep regular hours and not more than 8 hours and wake up before we do and able to prepare breakfast or go out breakfast with family.
DIL : Weekdays working will want to have at least sunday off where can rest and sleep longer after waking up so early Monday to Friday.

4)Upbringing and educate children:
MIL: There is always problem about how to take care feeding baby etc where MIL should have more experience and DIL should listen or seek MIL for advise.
DIL: Children are our flesh and blood, we have right how to bring up own children. We believe our methods are as good if not better than MIL.

5)Greeting old people
MIL: DIL is expected to greet old folks FIL or MIL whenever see them in morning and when want to go to bed.DIL who wake up late and still look sleepy in morning and did not greet old people are considered bad upbringing and did not respect elders. Last time before married mouth so sweet now after married is different. Haiz......
DIL: Everyday see FIL, MIL after married still need to great ma? We are one family do not need to be so formal. I do not need to greet my parents why need to greet IL now?

6) Visit to parents house or go out with friends.
MIL: I expect DIL to visit parents house the most once a week but not so often. Why my DIL has to visit her parents every weekend and overnight? House is so messy and untidy still have time to go out. I expect DIL after married to go out less with friends. Got spare time please stay home and clean house.

DIL: I miss my parents and my own home. I like to visit my parents as much as possible. As for my friends, is there a rule after married cannot go out with friends? I am tired after having baby have to everyday stay at home. At least once a while I would like to be able to go out and talk with friends and share my problems with them.

Do they sound familiar? I will share more later.

spoke at : 11:06 PM

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